Hello BarbCurt and Others,
I would love to address this to the others on this thread as well as to you Curtis.
First of all, I have to say that (because everyone’s Journey of Healing is different) that I have no idea of the emotions that you are feeling. But I offer you support and encouragement.
I have been a hospice resident & family support volunteer for 10 years. People have taught me so, so much.
One of the main things that I have learned is this human dynamic:
© Everyone has a story.
© It helps to tell our story – over and over
© People sometimes refrain from telling their stories to loved ones.
© They don’t do so because they don’t want to be a burden or don’t want to cause them pain.
© There are not enough “StoryListeners” out there.
© Sometimes a PerfectStranger is what is needed.
© Not that they are perfect, but the situation/timing/circumstances may be perfect.
All of us at virtualhospice.ca are here to listen, compassionately. Compassionate Companions, if you will.
I am here to listen, compassionately.
My wife and I are both happy and healthy. But at 72 years old, that will change, as it does for us all, eventually. Either me or her. I hope I go first, but we have no “say”, do we?
So why do I do what I do? Well, I believe that everyone will need a helping hand, eventually. So, I suppose, I’m sort of “paying it forward”
BarbCurt: I love the handle. It’s eternal, isn’t it? I have used MiGlo for the combo-name of my wife and I.
I don’t know if you feel the same, but I feel that when we suffer the loss of a SoulMate/LifePartner that we suffer two losses.
For instance, When John loses Mary, he loses Mary. But he also loses John and Mary. People say things like, “John and Mary are coming over to play cards tonight. Three entities will arrive.
A good friend of ours says that she loves to sit back and watch the interplay/personal dynamics between my wife and me. That interplay does not exist in isolation.
So what do you think - everyone? Am I “out on a limb” here? Or do others feel the same way? Please share. Share your story, Share your dynamic. Share your thoughts. Share your ideas. Share your journey. It enriches us all.
- Love, joy, peace, patience.
- eKim