Dear, dear Oldbat,
Let this person go. Somehow people, often close family or friennds, just can't come up with anything helpful to say. Like my step daughter who told me I needed to take Pablo to the gym to do more leg strengthening exercises, when the progress of the disease actually creates extremity weakness!
Off your back. You are strong an good. May be an angel will call out to you--as an unknown woman did to me last week as I was wheeling Pablo down the sidewalk--she rolled down her car window and called out, "You're doing a good job taking care of your husband!" If not, let me be your "angel/messsesnger." You are TRULY the Good Wife!!
Nouce