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“Having something to miss is a gift.” 
Started by eKIM
01 Dec 2020, 5:27 PM

“Having something to miss is a gift.”

"I recently heard someone sharing online that “having something to miss is a gift”, and it really struck a chord. 

I have certainly been undergoing a huge range of emotions recently, but when I pause to remember that I am blessed to have such a long list of things that I miss in the first place, it speaks to the depth of abundance.

It does also highlight that at this time there are many whose lists are not nearly so long. We are continuing to understand that this pandemic has had a significant impact on already struggling marginalized communities: So as we enter this season of holidays, lights, celebrations and traditions, we should also remember those not as fortunate as we are.”  - anon

Please share, if you will, your experience with “reflecting on gratitude” and also, “reflecting on the plight of others”, during this pandemic. 

Also, for those grieving a loss, how does this affect the “journey of healing”. 

Does it help?  Is it even possible when so many other emotions are clamouring for attention? 

- eKim

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Reply by NatR
01 Dec 2020, 6:10 PM

Dear EKim 

I think you hit the nail on the head - it's important to remember (in my humble opinion) that when we love, sometime or other we will be disconnected from that love - it's as inevitable as the sun rising and setting.  Everything has a season ... or something like that

the alternative to pain and loss is to live a solitary life without love connections and appreciating every one of them... your partner, your child, your family and parents,  the sun setting, a rainbow 

all of the things that we treasure are seen if we fall in love, if we look the right direction abd see the rainbow! All of life is made in this way and the older I get the more I realize it.

I am grateful for those who share their thoughts here / thanks EKim and all who read this

thanks for making my day - I learn something every day and you helped

hugs to all who cradle their broken hearts , I hope today you can realize how lucky we are to have had love...

best wishes to EKim and all  
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Reply by eKIM
01 Dec 2020, 9:15 PM

And you "made my day", NatR.  It brought back a sweet memory.

For 10 years now, I have volunteered (pre-covid) at our local residential hospice.  The average stay is 14 days.  Our role is to comfort everyone - the residents and families.  We are Compassionate Companions, if you will.

Very, very often I would hear a new arrival - someone at end of life- say, "I am so lucky to have found this place."  

Every single time I would be in awe of their words.  Imagine, they were dying and yet called themselves lucky! 

What they meant, of course, is that a residential hospice is like a 10-star resort compared to a hospital ward.  The private rooms with all the amenities, the superb meals (favourite recipes brought from home) made by the kitchen volunteers. The medical care (especially pain-management) is second to none. 

I swear that whether they know it or not, every single person who is called to hospice/palliative care is an EarthAngel – from the Director to the medical staff to the psychosocial/spiritual team, to the volunteers, to the housekeeper and others I have forgotten to mention.

And residents are relieved that they are no longer a burden to their loved ones.  Those sweet souls who could not possibly perform 24/7.  Many times I have heard, “I’m so glad that he’s here.  Now I can go back to being a wife, instead of a caregiver.” 

But most of all it’s the honour, and the the privilege, of hearing someone who is at the end of life say, “You have made my day.”  Imagine they may have less than 14 of them left, and I “made” one of them.

I give thanks every day for the blessing of being chosen to serve others.  What a gift.


“Always be kinder than necessary. 

You never know the burden that someone is carrying.”

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Reply by NatR
01 Dec 2020, 9:21 PM

Dear Ekim
what a lovely note - thanks for your insight and the care you give others
good evening one and all
NatR 😍 
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Reply by TrevorL
12 Dec 2020, 3:54 PM


Thank you for the invitation to share and thoughtful quote. I am involved with a charity providing healthcare internationally and watching the suffering unfolding in North America always left me feeling like I am watching the only the shadow of what countries with less health infrastructure and economic security are experiencing.

Of course that does not undo the suffering that we are experiencing here and I feel that your statement that "having something to miss is a gift" reflects on the positive experiences in life, regardless of circumstance. Another term I once heard is that "grief is love recycled" and I think that that statement always gives me some comfort over having had the experience of enjoyment despite the loss.

I am grateful for having heard your story and what you and NATR bring to the community now and always.

Kind regards,

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Reply by eKIM
12 Dec 2020, 9:06 PM

Thanks so much for the postings

Sometimes (especially during these times of isolation) it feels a bit lonely.

Sometimes we post and get no reply and have to fight the "Did I say something wrong?" feeling.

Sometimes it feels like speaking into the wind in the dark.

We, who post and support this site love people and love helping people.

It is reassuring and gratifying to hear words of encouragement.

To all of you:  You give so much love, and that makes you loveable.

Love eKim

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