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Special People In Our Lives 
Started by eKIM
30 Aug 2013, 1:49 AM

Special People In Our Lives

 

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know why they came.

 

When someone is in your life for a REASON,

it is usually to meet a need that you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty,

to provide you with guidance and support,

to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Often these people will only stay temporarily in our lives.

This is not meant to be sad.

It is simply meant to be what it is.

What we must realize is that our need has been met,

our desire is fulfilled, and their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

 

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,

because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have not known.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it. It is real. but only for a season.

They too must move on.

 

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,

things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson,

love the person and put what you have learned to use

in all other relationships and areas of your life.

These people will stay with you for life.

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Reply by KathCull_admin
16 Dec 2013, 1:53 AM

Christmas can be a difficult time of the year for those who are grieving the loss of a family member or friend. 

In the middle of a busy mall in Winnipeg sits a majestic Christmas tree covered in cards tied on with ribbons -  cards with handwritten messages mixed in with bright cards coloured by children.  

Hospice and Palliative Care Manitoba sponsors the tree which is staffed by trained volunteers who provide support, and a listening ear to the shoppers who stop by - people often make this an annual event. Cards, pens, pencils, crayons (for children), and kleenex are provided with no cost.

What activities support those who are grieving in your community?
Katherine 
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Reply by Brayden
16 Dec 2013, 3:00 AM

I cannot remember for how many years I have taken numerous 3 hour shifts sitting at this memory tree during the month of December. It is the most rewarding experience during the Christmas season to be able to touch the lives of people that stop for a minute in their busy shopping spree and remember their loved one by writing out a card and hanging it on the tree. We can often be a very real support by listening to their story and offer suggestions as to how they might better cope in this stressful time.  

We can all reach out to folks that we know lost a loved one, especially if this is the first Christmas without them. Wishing you all a blessed Christmas.
Brayden
 
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Reply by eKIM
16 Dec 2013, 3:42 AM

That was a sweet posting, Brayden.  There are few things more precious than the meeting of a hurting soul and a compassionate listener.  

I have experienced this on both sides.  On one side, as a hurting soul, I came away thinking, "Now, that's what I have to do.”  However, the compassionate listener had not told me to take this course of action. 

With probing questions such as “What do you think you should do?” and others, I had annunciated my own solution.  Most times, deep down inside we know our answer.  All we need is a compassionate listener and to hear ourselves say what we know to be true.

On the other side as a compassionate listener, in my duties as a hospice volunteer, I have come away thinking, “What an honour, what a blessing, what a wonderful thing it is to feel called to serve in this way.  I often think of the following quote.  I came across it many years ago.  The definitive meaning escapes me.  I would love to hear other people’s take on it.

“But because truly being here is so much, because everything here apparently needs us, this fleeting world, which in some strange way keeps calling us. Us, the most fleeting of all”  - Rainer Maria Rilke 

The closest thing I can come up with comes from another quote, “We are not so much humans trying to understand what it means to be fully spiritual, as we are spirits trying to understand what it means to be fully human.” – source unknown  I would love to hear your thoughts, Brayden and other people as well.  - eKim
 

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