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He Means Something to Me 
Started by Weirdgirl13
31 Jul 2020, 5:31 PM

He's a family friend who I see every so often, and my heart just goes out to him. I just admire him so much as a person. He's so kind, and warm, and funny, and great to be around. I just want him to know he's so special. I find it hard sometimes to maintain hope, but I have to try. Hope just that things can be good. They can still be good. I feel like I love him too much sometimes. And like I have to keep back the emotions so as not to overwhelm him. It ends up being like, pretending I care less though, which isn't good. I want to maximize every opportunity to care, but at the same time be respectful of boundaries, and approach him where he's at. He's so strong, and thinking about him feels like it helps me, in my own life. I haven't seen him in a long time now because I've had to deal with my own stuff with regards to this, but I regret that. I wish I knew what to do. 
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Reply by bern5
31 Jul 2020, 6:47 PM

These are honest feelings to have for someone you care about, regardless of the circumstances. I may not know your story, or truly understand your relationship, but I believe emotions like yours should be shared when you've been given time.

I strongly believe someone who is warm, kind, funny, and great to be around would want to hear that you admire him, think he's special, and love him. Hope can be difficult to find initially, but words and acts of compassion can bring solace between loved ones - more than people know.

My heart goes out to you; I don't want you to feel regretful of how you use the time you've been given to spend with your family friend. If I may ask, how do you ususally communicate with him?
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Reply by Wingman
01 Aug 2020, 2:40 AM

Good Evening Weirdgirl.
Diffucult times leave our minds unsettled and we struggle to organize our thoughts and priorities. In these days we work on instinct- we go into survival mode. Doing what's right and the things that allow our twisting path to give us calm are not always clear nor are they always the same. The gift here is recognizing that things will- or have- find/found change.  At the crossroad is the presence of regret. 
For you, to acknowledge the circumstance leaves a position of choice. I can't speak to your situation but I can speak to the weight of regret. 
This community is safe to share experiences- there are difficult conversations here and they support us in our times of fear and uncertainty. For me, the lesson of regret is the hardest to accept as it means there was a lesson not to have.
I know there is no right answer and so I hope for you strenght and clarity during the hardest of times
Wingman

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