Hi Kyramarie - Thank you for being so open and sharing what you are going through.
Each family is unique, as are the relationships within the family. It seems you, and likely the rest of your family are coping and managing as best you can with the circumstances you are in. There is often a lot of strong emotions that can come with dealing with illness, and this can be even more complicated given the history and background of your relationship with your mother.
Often provinces have Home Care Programs that can provide in home support for things like medication administration, physical care and hygiene, help with meals and even respite and companionship. Home Care support can help offset some of the workload in the home being done by the caregivers. You might consider involving Home Care from your local health region or if Home Care is already involved maybe increasing the amount of services.
When we are providing care for someone or supporting others it remains important that we continue to look after ourselves as well. Social workers or psychosocial specialists are often involved in the care teams that support people with advanced illnesses. They can provide support, therapeutic counsel and connect individuals with further supportive resources if needed or wanted.
The health care professionals involved in your mothers care should be able to direct you to someone who can help. If your mother is connected to a palliative care program, they would also likely have a social worker or psychosocial specialist available to help.
It is insightful that you recognize you may need some help as you deal with this situation. I encourage you to reach out to a supportive service in your area that can help you during this time
To connect with supportive services in your area (home care, counselling) you can review the local listing of resources we have on our website by clicking
here. Just select your specific province and the listing will appear.
Warm regards,
Ogechi (CVH Moderator)