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20 Dec 2020, 11:30 PM

Oh it's so lovely to see your post Oldbat! I never listened much to Shakespeare. Too soon old and too late smart!
Katherine
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Reply by christinarobert
18 Feb 2021, 3:07 PM

Thats quite true since I faced an issue where I lost my close friend so I would listen to music which not only helped me with my stress but my anxiety as well. I felt more relaxed as if my friend was with me the whole time. 
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Reply by eKIM
18 Feb 2021, 5:38 PM

Hi Christina, this posting is for you.

But others might like it too.

I believe I was the recipient of a Serendipitous Coincidence.

I love the saying, “A coincidence is merely God’s way of remaining anonymous.”

This phenomenon seems to happen regularly in my life.

This posting is about the healing power of music, so, please bear with my meandering musing in the meantime.

I dream a lot and remember my dreams. This peeves my wife who loves “dream analysis” but cannot ever remember her dreams. Lol

I don’t put much faith in dream analysis – it is way too subjective. And sometimes a stupid dream is simply a stupid dream.

So last night I had a dream – most of my dreams rarely make any sense and the settings trend towards the bizarre.

Last night I was on a stool, at a counter, at a buffet at a supermarket. What? I told you they are bizarre.

Next to me sat my 4-year-old niece (who is in her 20s now). She was occupying herself as all 4 year-olds do – she was drawing and colouring.

As she did so, she wrote the word “besame” – several times.

I think it is Spanish or perhaps Italian. My niece is neither.

I had no idea what the word meant.

She smiled sweetly as she looked up at me and would say no more as she went back to her colouring.

All night long this dream and the mysterious word) replayed itself – and yes, it seems I do have a replay function to my dreams. Lol

Now here is the Serendipitous Coincidence part:

So this morning as I (stress-freely) eased myself into my day, I Goggled “besame”. This is what came up. It's a YouTube link.

BESAME - Andrea Bocelli live at Lake Las Vegas 2006

It is by one of my favourite artists and it is my new “BestEverSong”.

And yes, I did put it on continuous replay as my heart found peace.

By the way, the YouTube video is charming to watch while you listen.

The combination of sight and sound teases the senses into believing the sweet myth of peace.

Talk about the power of music to heal!

“Music has charms to soothe a savage breast.” - William Congreve (from his play The Mourning Bride performed in the year 1697.)

There's nothing new under the sun, eh? Now, where did that expression come from?

So the next time your breast feels like it is being savaged by the seriousness of life, let music be your muse.

And may love, joy, peace and patience be with you now and with you always - you Christina and whoever else is reading this.

- eKim
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Reply by TrevorL
19 Feb 2021, 12:09 AM

What a lovely and create discussion to see (and hear). My personal favorite is a muscial version of the Tolkien poem "I Sit Beside the Fire and Think"
You can find it here: 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZYQwLCViZyc


I sit beside the fire and think

of all that I have seen

of meadow-flowers and butterflies

in summers that have been;

 

Of yellow leaves and gossamer

in autumns that there were,

with morning mist and silver sun

and wind upon my hair.

 

I sit beside the fire and think

of how the world will be

when winter comes without a spring

that I shall ever see.

 

For still there are so many things

that I have never seen:

in every wood in every spring

there is a different green.

 

I sit beside the fire and think

of people long ago

and people who will see a world

that I shall never know.

 

But all the while I sit and think

of times there were before,

I listen for returning feet

and voices at the door.

I can listen to that song looping for hours and it reminds me of my relatives as well as my own place in life
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Reply by Storybook
21 Feb 2021, 1:18 AM

I love this discussion on music.

I've always liked music & lately I've heard some songs that have been emotionally moving to me. They have help me to access my emotions and begin to process the sudden death of my husband.

Here are 2 I've been listening to this week: 

1. Feather on The Clyde by Passenger
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tTV259Iyr4w

2. Waiting by Alice Boman



 
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Reply by AMT
21 Feb 2021, 4:37 PM

Dear Storybrook,
Those are two beautiful songs. I hadn't heard either of them before and listened to them both. It's amazing how music has the ability to bypass that thinking part of our brains and speak directly to the emotional and relational parts of our very being. John Denver had a follow up to his love song Annie's song, with Annie's Other Song. It was upbeat and cheerful but there are the lines: 
You see on any such an occasion, my thoughts will turn to you. The time I spend all by myself, I mostly spend with you. 
Even now today, sitting here writing to you, that last line catches in my throat and I'm not even listening to the music, I'm just hearing the sentiment in my heart.
I will keep you in my thoughts today.
Warmly,
AMT
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Reply by Nouce
21 Feb 2021, 6:08 PM

Greetings,

 

I've been re-reading though all these posts about music. I have always loved singing, and my partner, who died three years ago this week, also loved music. During his long illness, whenever possible, I took him to recitals and concerts.

 

As I've traveled the longer journey of grief, I've found that its ups and downs can always be deepened with music.

 

The album put together by Leonard Cohen's son, after his death: Thanks for the dance.

 

And sometimes when the house needs cleaning, and there's no one here to help, Bob Marley's greatest hits.

 

Today, on a walk, I heard a song sparrow singing. That's a sign, where I live, that spring is on the way. May eacn of you find a tune, or a word, for each day of your journey.

 

Nouce
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Reply by RyanWalker11
16 Apr 2021, 10:02 AM

About a year ago, as I arrived in the waiting room for another radiation treatment for cancer, a woman was playing guitar for someone who went in for another treatment.  She was going to put her guitar away with tears in her eyes when I thanks her for coming to play.  She played one more piece for me.  I gave her a business card.  It was an awkward moment for some reason.  As the end of this video played, I thanked God for giving me a little more time here on Earth School to enjoy some more music, even though I'm sure when we get Home again, the music is great there, too.
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Reply by oldbat
16 Apr 2021, 2:47 PM

My husband died just over a year ago.  About three months before he died, I took him to a dress rehearsal for the ballet version of The Merry Widow, by Lehar.  He was never able to even carry a tune but, on this occasion he " sang" his way through the entire performance, with a look of pure joy on his face.  

This memory sustains me on really dark days.

Old Bat
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Reply by Seeker
20 Apr 2021, 7:05 PM

Hello; I am so glad that you have written in to the Forum. I am very sorry about the death of your husband. A year is a very, very short time. I imagine that you are having many difficult days. My husband died just over three years ago and music was a big part of our lives, too.  I find, though, that it can be a double-edged sword - bringing comfort and a smile most of the time but sometimes the memories are so vivid that the music can bring a lot of sadness, too.  I am glad that for you this memory brings comfort and peace. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to revel in that and to remember that grief is the flip side of love.  We don't grieve if we don't love.  
I wish you peace and many moments of quiet memory that support you during this tough time.
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