A very warm hello to all three of you very brave women! I am deeply moved by your sharing, your honesty, your reaching out. Please accept my deepest sympathy for your profound losses.
Lind, I too am very glad that you have discovered this site. Here you can find a community of persons who will listen, do their best to undertstand, accept whatever you need to share. You say that writing here may have been helpful just by doing something other than feeling sad. We can often be surprised by what motivates us to reach out. Having taken the risk, I hope you will receive much in return.
Marstin and Liticia have shared their amazement that they are surviving despite their initial sense that they could never bear the pain of their loss and grief. And they are indicating that they have done this by living one step, one moment of a time. And all three of you indicate that you have shed many tears.
Although grief is a journey that is very lonely, all three of you are sensing that support of others is essential to your making it through. I am very glad that you are finding each other, and also finding this site. Please let all on this site know what kind of support will be of help to you.
I hear also the call to be gentle with yourselves. We can have an idea of what "strong" is, and crying and needing help may not fit that picture. I believe, however, that walking vulnerably through the journey of grieving is very strong. You do not know what each day, even each moment of the day, will hold for you. And yet, you get up each morning, and walk into the day. What courage! Even when you feel like you are staggering, and may fall, confused, lost, you continue to put one foot in front of the other. And then, as you say, Marstin and Liticia, you realize that a month has passed, then three, then five, then six! It is in retrospect that you see that you have been strong. In an amazing way that you cannot fully understand, your spirit is carrying your pain and grief.
My heart goes out to each of you! Please share what you are most needing and, always, what you are feeling. Everything is ok to share.
How is each of you coping as Christmas approaches? Do you sense that it is going to be very difficult for you?
Plum1