Hi BarbaraJane
I came across this on the website self-compassion.org
https://self-compassion.org/exercise-1-treat-friend/
I thought that it might be a good exercise to do if one gets “stuck in the mud of the mind” and finds the wheels spinning in our head.
Sometimes simply looking at something from a completely different angle can be very helpful. Sometimes it can lead us on a path of self-healing.
I hope this helps.
- eKim
How would you treat a friend?
Exercise 1: Please take out a sheet of paper and answer the following questions:
What Do You Do For A Struggling Friend?
© First, think about times when a close friend feels really bad about him or herself or is really struggling in some way.
© How would you respond to your friend in this situation (especially when you’re at your best)?
© Please write down what you typically do, what you say, and note the tone in which you typically talk to your friends.
What Do You Do For Yourself When You Are Struggling?
© Now think about times when you feel bad about yourself or are struggling.
© How do you typically respond to yourself in these situations?
© Please write down what you typically do, what you say, and note the tone in which you talk to yourself.
What Differences Did You Notice Between The Two Scenarios?
© Write down the differences in your reactions in the above two scenarios.
© Write down why you think you reacted differently to yourself as opposed to your friend.
© What factors or fears come into play that lead you to treat yourself and others so differently?
How Could Things Be Better?
© Please write down how you think things might change if you responded to yourself in the same way you typically respond to a close friend when you’re suffering.
© Why not try treating yourself like a good friend and see what happens?