Hello,
My mother was diagnosed in 2006 with lung cancer. She has for the past few years been doing well. She recieved chemo and a pill called Tarceva which was used when we found that there were some lymph nodes discovered. However since the original cancer is growing she was taken off the pill.
I have become very frustrated, as she has been told in the past to gain weight, exercise and enjoy life. We do not have an estimated time as it has been 9 years and the doctors are very happy with how long she has been living with the cancer. They have called her an enigma!
My problem, I suffer from various types of feelings. Sad, angry, frustrated and stressed to the max. I moved in my Mom 4 years ago after my husband passed from aggresive cancer. Mom has the attitude that because she has cancer that everyone should cater to her and tolerate certain behaviour because in her words. " that's just me". My whole life we never really got along but I moved here to help her. Although she has no problem being negative with us she just doesn't understand how it makes me feel. I am here for her and I want to help but her personality presents many challenges. I don't cook right etc. I am 60 years old and she forgets that I am an adult!
Her health is decling but I am still here for her. This is where the resentment comes in. I have no life as she cannot be left alone.
I appoligize for all the babble but I am putting this out there. Has anyone ever gone through all these emotions while being a caregiver?